Dear Abby: The bride insulted my friend with her rule for plus-ones

12.08.2025    The Mercury News    4 views
Dear Abby: The bride insulted my friend with her rule for plus-ones

DEAR ABBY A friend of mine Jake is going to be a groomsman in his friend s wedding They ve been friends since childhood and have been through a lot together Related Articles Dear Abby I kept my niece s secret and now my sister is furious Dear Abby I leave work in tears because my new co-workers nitpick everything I do Dear Abby I appealed him to rein it in and he called me a homophobe Was I out of line Dear Abby I set down rules for my baby s grandma and the in-laws called me harsh Dear Abby How do I counter my partner s passive-aggressive observations Jake has been in a serious relationship for more than six months but his friend s bride has informed him that he won t be getting a plus-one invitation for the wedding Her reason is that only people who were in relationships before they got engaged are invited to the wedding Jake and his girlfriend feel very insulted by this He has spoken to the groom and explained their point of view but the bride won t budge on her decision In my opinion wedding guests are inevitably offered a plus-one when invited especially a groomsman Jake feels awful knowing he ll be celebrating his friend that night while his girlfriend is at home alone What are your thoughts FAIR IS FAIR IN CANADA DEAR FAIR While it isn t cast in granite that wedding invitations must be issued with a plus-one it certainly is the considerate thing to do Guests should be made to feel as relaxed as workable The same goes for members of the wedding party Being sought to be a groomsman doesn t mean agreement is compulsory My thought is that under these circumstances Jake might prefer to inform his friend he requirements to find another groomsman and politely decline the invitation to attend the wedding and to be part of the wedding party DEAR ABBY I was diagnosed with colon cancer five years ago After two surgeries and three hospital stays I recovered The experience made me realize at that it was time to downsize I moved my husband and myself into a smaller one-story home in a lovely retirement neighborhood I have now been diagnosed with incurable metastatic cancer I m being treated to prolong my life The cure is hard and is taking its toll I am having a hard time preparing my husband for when I m gone I think I ve taken the necessary procedures I want him to be prepared but he doesn t seem to want to prepare We have been married for years Related Articles Asking Eric They were my friends first and now I m the one left behind Harriette Cole I was offered my dream job and I panicked Miss Manners The rich bride acted like she was doing us a favor Dear Abby I kept my niece s secret and now my sister is furious Asking Eric My neighbor thinks I m dead How do I clear this up without scaring her I have briefed our daughter on where the essential paperwork and legal documents are but I want him to take the lead How can I get him to participate PREPARING IN NEVADA DEAR PREPARING There is no way you can force your husband to take the lead on this He may be so emotionally exhausted and overwhelmed at the thought of losing you after years that he s in denial or unable to think beyond the inevitable Be sure your daughter knows all of your wishes to be carried out before and after your demise because she may need to step up And forgive your husband He will have to get through your loss in whatever way is natural for him Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA

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