Dear Abby: My genius daughter won’t get a job and it’s wrecking her marriage
DEAR ABBY I have been put in a complex position between my daughter and her husband Related Articles Dear Abby My gaslighting husband declared the police came to our house because of what I did Dear Abby I feel crazy for even thinking what I m thinking about my husband and my brother Dear Abby My friend declared there was no wedding date Then I discovered her website Dear Abby I got this new shirt and now women won t leave me alone Dear Abby Their kids and the baby are ruining our bar time My daughter who has a genius IQ double college majors etc hasn t worked in a year and a half Her husband of four years has tried to tell her it s putting a strain on him not only financially but also in terms of vitality When he went to the hospital his blood pressure was through the roof He even had bloodshot eyes He says he thinks she s waiting for him to die so she can live off his expenditure earnings My daughter is very picky and no job seems to be good enough for her If I interfere she ll stop talking to me and she ll know he has talked to me which will hurt their relationship as well What can I do I want her to be a productive person and not take everything for granted GRASPING AT STRAWS DEAR GRASPING The time has come for you to step back You can t control your adult daughter Obviously she and her husband do not communicate effectively Because of the stress your son-in-law is under his fear that she may be trying to pressure him into a coronary should be discussed with a marriage and family therapist He should be free to talk with anyone he wishes including you and possibly a lawyer and if your daughter the genius can t accept it stop allowing her to make it your dilemma DEAR ABBY I am married to a man who is incarcerated As you can imagine it s been hard on our family I have two kids with him I was pregnant with our youngest when he was arrested According to his mother since my husband went to prison I can t do anything right She yells at me that she has it worse than I do regarding my husband Her reasoning is that she s his mother and nothing can change that while I can consistently throw him away as a husband She also resented it when I went to counseling because she wants me to tell her my troubles When I tried she d constantly turn it back to her problems She s judgmental and mean She calls it being outspoken Abby am I wrong for being upset Do you think she wants me to divorce her son or something I think it was rude and stupid of her to say that to me I married her son and had children with him Related Articles Asking Eric I don t love my mom That doesn t make me a sociopath Harriette Cole Are you kidding me The wife who wants to date doesn t deserve sympathy Miss Manners She contaminated the soup and then got petulant with me Dear Abby My gaslighting husband stated the police came to our house because of what I did Asking Eric I didn t realize my family was following my comments online I don t understand why she thinks we are competing If it s a competition we re both losing We both have it bad Just because she s having a hard time doesn t make whatever I m going through any less bad does it CONVICT S WIFE IN OHIO DEAR WIFE I suspect there is nothing your mother-in-law would like better than for you to divorce her son If you did she would have him all to her overbearing self She thinks you are competing because she is Stay out of her way as much as practicable until your husband s release Do not confide in her You have enough to contend with without her stirring the pot and you can rest assured she will Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
